Coping With the Disease

Every woman reacts differently to a diagnosis of breast cancer, There’s simply no
universal remedy for coping with the disease. It is something only you can come
to terms with in your own personal way. We have been working with women who
have had breast surgery for many years, and perhaps we can offer you some
advice to help you cope with the problem.

Let your feelings flow

A diagnosis of breast cancer changes a woman’s perception of time. Many
woman feel like the weeks are slipping by and they don’t have enough time to
deal with all the things that need to be taken care of. They are typically plagued
by questions like “Why me?” or “What did I do wrong?” This feeling of being
under pressure only adds to the emotional stress.

At this point, it is important to simply let your feelings flow. Give in to the urge
to cry and let out your anger and pent-up rage over the disease. Expressing your
emotions will do you good - and can give you new energy to deal with
the disease.

Talking about it helps

Talking about the problems, the disease, and the fears
is almost always helpful. Your partner, a close friend,
or someone who has had breast surgery can play a vital
role as an understanding listener. What’s most important
is that you are genuinely ready to open up and
communicate the confused, and often contradictory,
feelings you are experiencing.

Sometimes, the people you know best are not necessarily
the right listeners. It may be better to talk things through
with someone who is not directly involved.

Relationship, family and friends

Please don’t think you need to “protect” your husband children, or friends from the disease, Instead,
remember this: Your partner is concerned and probably has many questions. Your children, even if they’re
still small, will also notice the changes taking place. If you avoid talking about the disease, you open the door
to fears and anxieties. Try to talk with your loved ones about your feelings. A heart-to-heart talk with those
who are closest to you can help everyone involved cope with the new situation.

A tender touch

The more open you and your partner are with each other, the more mutual understanding and trust you will
have - in both your personal and your sexual relationship. Even if there is less desire for sexual intimacy, that
doesn’t mean that you should avoid physical contact. For many people, a disease heightens the desire to
be held and to feel loved. More than ever, tenderness, warmth and security are extremely important for you
and your partner.

A few words of advice for coping with the disease

• Turn to people you can rely on
• Surround yourself with people whose company you truly enjoy
• Talk openly about your anxieties and problems
• Focus on the things you enjoy doing
• Wear cheerful colours and spend some time shopping in your favourite boutiques
• Become more aware of the simple pleasures of life
• Choose attractive lingerie
• Be open to tenderness and warmth